It was so much fun last year we’re doing it again: An all-gender queer party in a spacious private dungeon. This time, we’re thrilled to have sexuality educator Dr. Ruthie kick off the event with a sexy and fun workshop on spanking as foreplay.


  • 5:30pm Doors Open
  • 5:45pm – 8 pm Sandwich Bar (free to all attendees)
  • 6:30pm – 8:30pm Workshop (SOLD OUT. If you have your ticket, yay!)
  • 8:45pm  Dungeon 101 and Q&A with Sara Scalper and UndeniablyAJ. Free!

and last but not least….

  • 7pm – 1am All gender play party. Play starts at 7pm and continues until 12:45am!

If you’re attending the workshop, please arrive by 6:15pm so we have time to seat everyone before it starts.

This event is open to adults 18+. It is a vetted event. If we don’t already know you we ask for references.

Please RSVP using our easy


Check out our ‘Rocks’FAQ if you have any questions on registration, vetting or online payment. 

(Special NOTE: Last year’s attendees and others who received a VIP link–please use that link rather than the link above to register! )


And please RSVP to our FetLife Event.


Sexy Spanking As Foreplay

Learn how to tease and arouse your lovers (and yourself) through spankings designed with pleasure in mind. You’ll discover the secrets to a soft touch, a firm hand, and perfectly delicious pacing as well as techniques for turning spanking into an exciting twist on foreplay and sex. Ruthie will discuss spanking with hands and a variety of implements…creativity knows no bounds. Plus tips on how to weave dirty talk and humiliation into your over-the-knee fun. Leave ready to practice your new skills right away so you can enjoy sexy spankings by themselves or as a a precursor to other fun activities. There will be live demos of concepts presented in the class, as well as a chance to ask a questions.

About Dr. Ruthie

DrRuthiefloggerWe’re thrilled to have author, university faculty member and sexuality researcher Dr. Ruth Neustifter join us all the way from snowy Ontario, Canada. Ruthie, co-chair of one of the largest and longest running annual professional sexuality conferences in Canada, is author of numerous academic publications and The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty.
DrruthielookleftThey also founded and co-host Sexually Charged Radio. ruthie1 Ruthie happily identifies as poly, kinky, sex-queer and gender-queer. Since the late 1990s Ruthie has
specialized in sexual well-being and pleasure, as well as the resilience of survivors of intimate violence. They have given workshops throughout North America, Mexico and Europe in venues ranging from homeless shelters to universities to resorts.Dr. Ruthie is an advocate for pleasure, intimacy, and sex-positivity regardless of history, gender, health, sexuality, or desires. Check out Dr. Ruthie on the Web and on FetLife. Dr. Ruthie is also teaching Talk Dirty with Dr. Ruthie! for Q+K in Boston on Nov. 28.


A private location in Providence. Address will be given to confirmed attendees.

Driving, it’s about an hour and 15 minutes from Boston, with free parking. Alternately, if you want to take the Commuter Rail from South Station, venue is a 15 minute drive from the Providence stop. According to the schedule, trains arrive from South Station on Saturdays at 3:30pm, 5:40pm and 7:50pm. The last train back to Boston is at 10pm, unfortunately!

Wheelchair accessibility: We’re so sorry, but there is a flight of stairs to get to the space, and the elevator is not working.  If there is anything we can do to help, please let us know in the comment section of your registration–or email us at We’re happy to carry your stuff up the stairs, for example.  Just ask us!


Take advantage of our advance-purchase discount online:

  • $25 to $35 The Whole Shebang: Workshop and Party
  • $20 to $30 Just Party

At the door, $5 more!

Free Sandwich Bar for all attendees!
A link to buy tickets online by credit card will be provided to vetted attendees. Please buy in advance if you possibly can, as it helps us in planning and will speed your check-in at the door. We will take cash at the door if you’ve RSVPd via Google form, however you must prepay to guarantee a seat in the workshop.

At Your Service: Bootblacking and Massage


Bootblack and foot massage stations will be open from 8pm to midnight, staffed by our talented crew, including Shining_Boy and Jay Bosbootblack,  P.E.T.E and Zander. Half your tips will go to Q+K to help fund this event, and others. For full details, check out our Pampering at Q+K Rocks PVD page! So bring your leather items or tired feet with you and prepare to be pampered!

What to Wear

Please arrive looking vanilla on the outside. Once inside, you can take off your coat to reveal your awesome fetish wear. Or if you want to change into your party clothes when you arrive, there will be plenty of room to change. If you don’t have any fetish wear, you can’t go wrong with basic black!

Party Rules

A link to a full list of party rules will be emailed to all confirmed attendees. If you have any specific questions before you RSVP, please email us at

Dungeon 101

If you’re new to play parties, 1-21-17SaraAJ2 or just want a refresher, we recommend you attend the Dungeon 101 at 8:45pm., presented by the fun and scene-savvy duo: Sara Scalper and UndeniablyAJ, pictured left. They’ll give a quick summary of dungeon etiquette, negotiation, cruising tips and more! The presentation will be about 15 minutes, then there will be a Q&A so you can ask whatever’s on your mind. If you’re bringing guests to the event who are new to the scene, please strongly encourage them to attend the 101.

About Us

Queer + Kinky is a Special Interest Group of the New England Leather Alliance. Our events are open to people of any gender who self-identify as queer, and to allies of the queer community. Check out our other events on our main page.

We have a few simple guidelines at our events:

  • Please don’t make any assumptions about anyone, including their gender, sexual orientation or BDSM role. If you’re not sure, please ask, for example, ‘What pronouns do you use?’
  • Please ask before touching anyone, even if the touch isn’t sexual.

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