Talk Dirty with Dr. Ruthie

We’ve got a real live professor coming to town to teach us how to talk dirty! Canadian sex educator Dr. Ruthie, who literally wrote the book on talking dirty, will be teaching a fun and sexy workshop called Lovingly Objectified: Advanced Dirty Talk Techniques.

So mark your calendars for Tuesday November 28.

The workshop will be held at Boston Living Center from 7 to 8:30pm.

Join us for a brown bag dinner at 6:15pm before the workshop. Bring your own, or pick up something at the Flour Bakery next door. And we’ll also be making our way for a drink or two at Club Café after the workshop!

SPECIAL NOTE: This workshop is FULL. Spots may open up if we have cancellations. Please fill out the form below to get on the Wait List, and we will do our best to accommodate you!  

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Verbal objectification doesn’t need to be humiliating or degrading! Learn to use your sharp tongue and creative mind to make your partners feel simultaneously submissive and cherished. drruthietalkWatch live demos and follow-along in small groups as Dr. Ruthie guides you through plotting out how to treat your lovers and play partners to nurturing kindness that can be both difficult and intimate to receive. Attendees will leave having watched (or tried!) three different techniques, all rooted in an approach for loving verbal objectification that can be used in a myriad of ways.

This workshop includes lots of content for doms, subs, and switches! Negotiation tips are included for all parties, as are ideas for determining how to make this kind of dirty talk hot and healthy for you, and how to communicate that to partners.

About Dr. Ruthie

We’re thrilled to have author, university faculty member and sexuality researcher Dr. Ruth Neustifter join us all the way from snowy Ontario, Canada. Ruthie, co-chair of one of the largest and longest running annual professional sexuality conferences in Canada, is author of numerous academic publications and The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty. They also founded and co-host Sexually Charged Radio. ruthie1 Ruthie happily identifies as poly, kinky, sex-queer and gender-queer. Since the late 1990s Ruthie has specialized in sexual well-being and pleasure, as well as the resilience of survivors of intimate violence. They have given workshops throughout North America, Mexico and Europe in venues ranging from homeless shelters to universities to resorts. Dr. Ruthie is an advocate for pleasure, intimacy, and sex-positivity regardless of history, gender, health, sexuality, or desires. Check out Dr. Ruthie on the Web and on FetLife.


Boston Living Center, 29 Stanhope Street in Boston, is a five-minute walk from the Back Bay Station Orange Line stop. There is street parking along Columbus Ave as well as parking lots in the area. Boston Living Center is wheelchair accessible. Use front door; there is an elevator in the lobby.


$15, more if you can, less if you can’t.

What to Wear

Vanilla attire, please!

About Us

Queer + Kinky is a Special Interest Group of the New England Leather Alliance. Our events are open to people of any gender who self-identify as queer, and to allies of the queer community. Check out our other events on our main page.

We have a few simple guidelines at our events:

  • Please don’t make any assumptions about anyone, including their gender, sexual orientation or BDSM role. If you’re not sure, please ask, for example, ‘What pronouns do you use?’
  • Please ask before touching anyone, even if the touch isn’t sexual.

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